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Saturday, April 06, 2013

Welcome To The Sad Sack Whiner’s Hall of Fame: Part 2 of 2

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In part one of this two-part series, we discussed the ways that a negative outlook can affect your life. Being a pessimist, or a sad sack, can change the way you approach life, can make you feel like you’ve lost before the game is even played. By approaching life with a strong, positive mental base, you can improve your life, no matter what the circumstances are, and you can avoid entering the “Sad Sack Whiner’s Hall of Fame.”

Before going any further, hand over that huge bag of past failures, bad experiences and crushed expectations that you are carrying. It is holding you back, keeping you from moving forward. I keep a special bin for my baggage, and I leave it there. Less baggage means I can travel lighter, and I can go much further in life at a much quicker pace.

Now that we got that out-of-the-way, can you lend me your ear for a few moments so I can show you how to clear out the negative mental debris in order to replace it with a more appropriate, more effective mental attitude? For example, you can learn how to convert all of your setbacks, turning them into opportunities, reinforcing your values and living your life in the most positive way that you can. So let’s start by developing a positive approach to life and move forward from there.

The opposite of a Sad Sack is a person with a Positive Mental Attitude. People who possess a PMA are easily spotted, just like Sad Sacks. They stand tall with their shoulders thrust back and their chest expanded. They have a brisk walk with an air of self-confidence. Optimistic people are wonderful role models. They know how to manage their emotions, how to deal effectively with stress, anger and fear. Positive minded individuals find a high-stress life exciting and challenging, because they have the resilience to bounce back from stress.

They are more flexible in coping with different circumstances. They are motivated to take a positive view of the situation to see how they can either improve or correct their problems. They not only look for the good in every situation and find opportunities inside every problem, they build harmonious relationships with loved ones and coworkers. One outstanding characteristic of a person with a Positive Mental Attitude is that they do not fear failure because they never expect to fail. They never give up until they see their dreams and goals come to fruition. They are not hindered by self-imposed limitations. Their mind transcends limitations and their consciousness expands in every direction. These individuals have learned the secret of uncovering the hidden talents that exist within them. The optimistic person understands his or her true purpose in life. This is why their choices become much clearer and why they experience less chaos and confusion. They trust their choices, weighing all the pros and cons related to them, considering the consequences and deciding which action will result in a better return for them. Then they take the plunge by moving forward with a burning desire to win or perish with their decision.

The person that possesses a Positive Mental Attitude finds a way in which he or she will best serve the world. How different is this person from the negative person? The Sad Sack will make it his or her duty to remain unhappy, focusing only on the negative aspects of life. The consequences of where both of these individuals are and what they have is based on the choices and decisions that they have made. The resulting consequences and the views of these consequences differ because of the different attitudes these two types of people possess. To the person with a PMA, every victory is glorious, and every setback is an opportunity. To the Sad Sack, every victory is a burden laden with another shoe waiting to drop, and every loss is devastating.

Changing your attitude isn’t easy. Change doesn’t happen overnight. You have to take it one step at a time on a daily basis. It means establishing a mind-training regimented program in which negative destructive thoughts are replaced by constructive ones. You don’t have to hurry the process along, changing your way of thinking isn’t easy, just walk at your own pace, and little by little you will begin to see the difference.

Here are a few suggestions that will help remove you from being inducted into the Sad Sack Whiner’s Hall of Fame.

1. Be a Volunteer: That means take the focus off you and place it on someone else. The side effects of volunteering help you to not only feel better emotionally, physically and psychologically, but also builds up your self-worth, self-esteem and your self-confidence. It’s great for relieving stress and anxiety.

2. Focus on Creative Visualization: When you are fearful your limitless potential becomes restricted by self-limitations. Did you know that you have hidden deep within yourself an amazing and inexhaustible source of innovative ideas, a fountain of creativity waiting for you to drink from it? So how does Creative Visualization work? The secret to this is that you need to think big enough to get past today, or big enough to see where you could go and what you can be part of. You need to expect and accept only the best in your life, and the only way to do this is to start with the creativity that you have within you, taking advantage of the opportunities that surround you. Move forward from there.

3. Change your Thought Patterns: The more you dwell on any difficulty, the more you will amplify it and the harder it will be to get out from under it, which will leave you depressed. However, if you have a positive attitude you will stop feeling depressed. There is nothing like waking up each day feeling good about yourself and expecting incredible things to happen. All you have to do is reverse your negative outlook on life and your outer experiences will change as well.

4. Recapture Desire: It is said that desire is the driving force that motivates one to achieve the attainment or possession of something that is within reach. It is also this achieving motivation that gives power to all human action, without it, one cannot go far. You need to stop being confined to your small world and raise yourself above and beyond your current situation in order to make changes, to improve your situation and to move forward.

5. Analyze Yourself Honestly: First, you need to figure out what you want in life, then you have to identify your strengths and weaknesses that will help you get to or that stand between you and your noteworthy achievement. In this way, you will know what areas of your life need improvement in order to make things happen in a positive way

I reiterate, get out of that dismal Sad Sack rut you are in. Live in the most positive way that you can and most of all feel good about your life at last. There are already too many inductees in the Sad Sack Whiner’s Hall of Fame. You don’t want to make an induction in that downtrodden Hall your life’s achievement. You want to enjoy life. You want to accomplish things. You want the world to be your oyster, and it can be, as long as you know there’s a pearl inside the shell. You simply have to figure out how to open that shell to get your pearl, but in the end, the effort is worth what you will get out of life.